Chances are good that you know or will know a family whose lives have been turned upside-down by loss. Here are some tips for how to become one of those who “get” grief.

This post was originally published in ParentMap on May 14, 2015.


Lessons in Effective Parenting

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I walked in the door and my son was slumped in his seat watching a Khan Academy video. The tutor who I had hired to teach him looked exasperated and took me aside to tell me so.


When a psychic finds me in a coffee shop, she has a message from my dead husband.

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The panini’s had been ordered, and I had just gotten up to grab my “Blue Velvet,” a tea latte. A woman sitting at a table next to ours, asked, “Did your boyfriend or husband die recently?”


Book ideas come from all kinds of places

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My novel, Remember the Moon began from a seed of an idea I had about a dead man’s conversation with his alive wife through a psychic.


Adventures in dating in your 50s during a pandemic

The author in her home studio.

After I broke up with my fiancé three years ago after an almost seven-year relationship, I licked my wounds for a year or two, with no desire to date. I converted what had been his man-cave into my art studio and began to paint. At first, producing art was my Sunday activity because Sundays alone are hard. Soon, it morphed into my favorite Friday night and Saturday night activity as well.


Will ‘relationship rehab’ help me find true love?

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Among the million other things I have on my plate at the moment, I am attempting to follow a seven-week course called “Calling in ‘The One’.”

You feel exhausted, confused, powerless.

Maybe even a little…


Haha! So true, although my experience of writing my memoir was that it WAS my therapist. I had a strange post-partum depression after it was published!


How to find the deeper meaning in your story

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A few years ago, I attended a memoir writing workshop with Anne Lamott — a dream come true. My friend and memoir teacher, Theo Nestor, the author of a wonderful book about Memoir Writing, Writing is My Drink, was also speaking, along with a few other notable writers, imparting their own nuggets of wisdom on the subject of memoir writing.

Ask the questions

When formulating the basis of a memoir—ie. determining the theme — it really comes down to a couple of pointed questions you need to ask yourself.


A single mom contemplates combining lives with her boyfriend

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Sitting in a warm October sun at a picnic table at an outdoor bar in Portland, my words just sort of popped out.


It’s not always easy dating a widowed person, but the rewards can be great.

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As my boyfriend of almost 7 years and I were breaking up, he socked me with the gut punch: “You could never fully love me because you’re still in love with your husband.”

Abigail Carter

Writing about widowhood, parenting, life, grief, art, writing and publishing. #singlemom #author #memoirist #writer #widow #9/11widow #artist

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