Sex and the Single Widow/er
The surprising connection between sex and grief
Sex and widow are not words you often hear together. Bit of an oxymoron actually. And yet. It's been a dry spell, so maybe this topic is on my mind more than it ought to be. I am pretty certain there is an interesting link here. I have come up with a bunch of reasons why sex would play a large role in a widow/er’s life:
- Replace lost intimacy
- Feel alive
- Stave off loneliness
- Be touched
- Feel comforted
- As a way of giving love that no longer has a place to go
- Rediscovering oneself after a long marriage
- A release of sexual repression
- A form of spirituality
- Overcome separateness
Wild Thang
In my experience, and judging from some conversations I’ve had with other widow/ers, sex often becomes a large part of one’s recovery. In fact, widow/ers seem to have a kind of “wild stage” where getting laid takes on greater importance than it has since they were newlyweds. I know that I personally discovered an entirely new side of myself – a sexual side AFTER my husband died. I threw myself into the act, surrendering in a…
