The Vocabulary of Grief

Twenty years after 9/11, we still don’t know how to talk about death

The author and her daughter at the birdbath party, 2003 (photo: Abigail Carter)

Twenty years is a long time to grieve. In those early years after the buildings collapsed on 9/11 taking my husband, Caleb Arron Dack, along with 2,995 others, I couldn’t imagine what my life without him might look like in twenty years. It seemed an unfathomable amount of time. I had to get down to the…